Are we Adulting yet?

The term “adulting” now tends to pop up a lot in the dark dark world of the internet (possibly due to this tumblr/blog/book), it seems like all the social media savvy are around my age use this word. What scares me the most of all is that I’m certainly not adulting!…at least I don’t think I am… If you call watching Comedy Central re-runs of Friends on a Monday afternoon whist ignoring the existence of university being productive, I don’t think I’m quite there yet.

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I’ve just entered my final year of university, at the end of my final freshers week I couldn’t help but feel that all the university fun will soon be over. I’ll begin the trauma of writing a dissertation (once I think of a topic and a question) and working towards modules that will actually count towards my final mark! But the aspect that I am most concerned about is finishing and going into the real world…or not going into the real world and instead doing a masters.

What do I want to do a job in? Dunno

What do I want to do a masters in? Dunno

If I didn’t know any better then I would be shit*ing myself for the future. However, I know for a fact that most 20 something and 30 something year olds don’t have a clue what they’re doing either, and just winging it. In fact my uncle is 50 odd and he told me that he still doesn’t know wants to be when he grows up.

I know that I am perfectly capable of living on my own…because I have. I know how to cook and generally keep myself alive. What I do not know is how taxes work, how a mortgage or loan works, how to buy a house, and how to change a light bulb (amongst many other tasks). So I am proposing that someone who is business savvy and knows how to do adult things, starts an Adulting course – preferably online – and of course for free. Or the government could actually propose that schools teach life skills, rather than trig.

If you’re reading this then let me know, do you know what you want to be when you grow up?

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24 Films to Cheer you up

I’ve had a lot of days recently when I just feel like staying in bed all day and watching something on my laptop. It’s great how a film or a TV series can completely change your mood, so I’ve compiled a list (my favourite thing…70% of my posts are lists) of my personal favourite films that can cheer you up if you have the January blues.

  1. Pitch Perfect
  2. Aladdin
  3. Spy
  4. The Heat
  5. Mean Girls
  6. Meet the Parents
  7. Mrs Doubtfire
  8. Bedknobs and Broomsticks
  9. Sister Act
  10. The Mask
  11. Uncle Buck
  12. Ferris Bueller’s Day Off
  13. Antman
  14. Paul
  15. Mulan
  16. Harry Potter  and the Prisoner of Azkaban
  17. Arthur (the old version)
  18. Matilda
  19. Tangled
  20. Holes
  21. Hook
  22. Ace Ventura – Pet Detective
  23. 21 Jump Street
  24. The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel

Do you agree with my list, or have any you would like to add? Put them in the comments below.

Bethan.

Self Defence

*The information which I’m sharing with you is to only be used in case of emergency. If you feel like you are in danger.*

Personally as a woman I find that knowing a bit of self defence is crucial to feeling safe within my surroundings. Even though respect for women seems to be on the increase, fortunately sex abuse/rape and mugging is still a problem. Unfortunately women seem to be the main targets for these acts, seemingly weaker than men and perhaps more vulnerable. Not that men never get targeted, so listen up too boys!

Of course you can take classes learning self defence, but as someone who struggles in a new surrounding with strangers I’ve picked up self defence tips from my parents, boyfriend and general day-to-day life. So I thought it would be helpful to give my readers a few pointers if you unfortunately ever find yourself in a threatening situation.

  1. The neck. Possibly the weakest part of the body, a blow to this area would be extremely uncomfortable and would disrupt normal breathing. A pressure point is located in between the collar bones, if possible apply pressure to that area by any means.
  2. The feet. Only could really be successful if the criminal is wearing flimsy footwear. Stomp down in the middle of the foot (above the bridge) hard, if you’re strong enough you might just break it, if not – it will slow the person down considerably. Now run!
  3. Use your keys.  I think I was taught this by a police woman that used to give talks in my school. If you feel like you have enough time and if you have your keys on you, use them as a knuckleduster, make a fist and slot your keys and keyrings in-between your fingers and make a blow for the side of the head.

I hope these three pointers will make you feel safer during your day-to-day activity and at night. Let me know if you have any tips for self defence too!


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A Student trying to stay Productive over Summer

It’s similar for a lot of people, we get excited for summer but by the time it comes around we’re stuck in the house bored out of our minds.

Right now I’m at the start of my summer and I’ve already done most of my plans! I’ve been on holiday with my boyfriend, I’ve seen my friends that I haven’t seen in ages, I’ve watched the summer blockbusters at the cinema, and as a result of these I am left with no money (well..minus money because I am now in my student overdraft).

Apart from trying to find a job, which is the obvious solution I find, I don’t need my mum nagging at me about how unemployed I am! Finding a job is hard especially when most of the jobs which are available sound mind numbingly boring!

So here is a list which a want to complete over the time that I’m not at university, it can also help you lovely readers too if you also find that you find yourself struggling for things to do over summer:

  1. Get a normal sleeping pattern sorted so most of the day isn’t wasted sleeping. Kitten, Cat, Feline, Pets, Animals
  2. Write a list of books you really want to read, and finally get round to reading them. Light, Lamp, Bedside Lamp, Illumination
  3. Write more! Whether it’s blogging, letter writing or fictional. Keeping up with writing skills will come in handy when the time comes to return to university.
  4. Workspace, Place Of Work, Work
  5. Get creative. Look on Pinterest! There is always a tonne of inspiration on there, whether it’s D.I.Y or making a card for your friend’s birthday. Pinterest, Facebook, Social Media, Media
  6. Exercise! It’s typical to find this on a to-do list. But now that my uni gym’s subscription is over and the gyms around me are way too expensive, I’m going to try and do some simple exercises at home. Stuck for ideas? Go to Cassy Ho’s Youtube, she is brilliant!  
  7. Spruce up your CV now while you have time. Taking time on this can really pay off, set it out nice and simple (oh and delete those other 20 old CVs on your laptop).
  8. Put your CV on LinkedIn, make yourself more vulnerable to opportunities you want! Road Sign, Town Sign, Success, Career
  9. Do some of that extra course reading now. Yeah it might not happen, but future me would be grateful.
  10. Make eating more fruit and veg a habit! Whether it’s a smoothie for breakfast or snacking on carrot sticks while you watch OITNB, this will give you more energy to do all this other stuff ^^^ Vegetables, Tomatoes, Delicious, Frisch
  11. A well deserved detox. Your body will be thankful when you run out of money, give your liver a breather from all that Glen’s vodka you’ve been giving it since last September.

What do you think? Do you guys have any other ideas how I can stay productive?

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We don’t have to grin and bare it.

We all have those times in our lives that we fail to acknowledge. Hidden from social media like a dirty little secret. Repressed in that chest within our heads covered in locks and chains with a “Keep Out” sign scrawled across the lid in red paint… probably next to the filing cabinet entitled “General Knowledge” that everyone’s lost they key for; apart from those who are bloody brilliant at pub quizzes.

Yes my darlings I am talking about those gloomy, heartbreaking, want-to-hide-under-the-duvet-cover-in-bed-and-never-come-out sort of days.

I’m currently going through one of those periods, unlike many people associated with being able to express thoughts and ideas over the internet, I’ve decided to say something about it. Because you know what? It really pisses me off, tell someone your problems if you want to get it off your chest! You may think that they don’t give a rat’s arse about what you’re going through, but I can assure you that they will! Or if you don’t want to tell anybody that is also ok. It’s perfectly normal to not be tickety-boo 24/7!

We all have perks and losses in our lives, intertwined with those odd little anomalies of increased motivation and duvet days. It wouldn’t be life without them, but somehow that dreaded human-created monster named “society” has brainwashed the population (for women as an example) into thinking that it’s “normal” to have a thigh gap, hip length thick hair, a toned body, big boobs that can somehow fit into Topshop clothes that do not seem to be designed to accommodate boobs, a big bum that can fit into size 4 jeans, all the while you do your job that earns you £100000000000 p/m because of that first honours degree you got from a red-brick university. STOP. It’s ridiculous isn’t it?

Don’t dwell on that you have no boobs or you have fine hair, it’s genetics. We all feel like we could be improved in one way or another – I know I do, I want 20/20 vision and thick hair – and it’s ok to feel down about it. Just don’t let something that unimportant like that take over your life. Because when something worse happens, you’ll be wondering why on earth you paid such attention to such a small aspect of your life.

I hope you all are having a nice week, because I sure as hell am not.

Bored in a Clio

I’m a bit OCD when it comes to cars and their cleanness. I guess I get that off my dad. I’m currently sat in my boyfriend’s mums car, which has a faint smell of bark and dust. I’m listening to Heart which is by far the best radio station, as it doesn’t just play one direction, Jessie j and whatever else is top 40 nowadays, however I’m trying not to drain the battery. I’m trying to be good so he can take me to Ikea.

Who knows how long I’ll be locked in this Clio for.

Anyway he’s in the jobcentre trying to get some money before he starts his job as a plod/rozzer/copper/policeman. As you can see below he is enjoying the pleasant atmosphere that is the doll office (excuse any spelling mistakes in the screenshot).

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It scares me quite a bit that when I start university he’ll be a copper. I mean…a lot of illegal things happen at university. (Mind I’m talking about someone who steals ray ban’s and fur coats out of skips, and finishes a house party with hallucinating that goblins are sat on his ironing board. That boy was high on life that night.)

It’s now got to the stage when I’m muttering all the words to the radio adverts.

I went to the jobcentre once, but I stopped going a week after because it was awful. Thanks government for my £4. It came in handy. Naaaaaaat. I still don’t have another job, which is surprising considering I’m good at…well…nothing.

Anyway I have nothing else to type, here’s my bored face.

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P.s he still isn’t back yet

-BethanNicole